tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post6829610885652120229..comments2009-05-20T03:29:19.593-07:00Tyler-Real Social Dynamicshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06957018105278795280noreply@blogger.comBlogger63125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-43218928421659043702009-05-18T19:11:00.000-07:002009-05-18T19:11:00.000-07:00just came across this again. fantasticMosshttp://www.sgrcrft.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-75927906931941058852008-11-18T15:37:00.000-08:002008-11-18T15:37:00.000-08:00Excellent post Tyler. Every article I read from your blog changes my life perspectives. I am constantly evolving and learning how to be a better person by feeding off your expert knowledge. You are an extremely knowledgeable person, but you are incredibly humble as well. That is a rare and unique combination, and I am ever so grateful to have access to your thoughts. You are my role model, and I am constantly trying to evolve into a better person - just like you are very successfully doing. Thanks bro.Zachhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15677187792771309237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-17251133510950594912008-09-07T17:27:00.000-07:002008-09-07T17:27:00.000-07:00Much appreciation to Tyler. I read this article right when I really needed it. Push yourself to do the right thing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-4448674732419144422008-08-19T02:39:00.000-07:002008-08-19T02:39:00.000-07:00Owen, I feel like you wrote the words in my soul.<BR/><BR/>You struck a chord that's disturbingly painful and true that resonates with me, as a young hard-charging proprietor/business owner in an unstable ecosystem supporting many people with my own output, just like you.<BR/><BR/>I appreciate your words. You're gifted and needed.<BR/><BR/>You know how they say once you're enlightened in a certain way, there's no going back?<BR/><BR/>Thanks.<BR/><BR/>and Thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-75836254943693701332008-08-18T15:00:00.000-07:002008-08-18T15:00:00.000-07:00It's funny because the "all work and no play" concept creates a very negative set of emotions for most people, which usually is the main cause for procrastination. <BR/><BR/>Procrastination is basically a symptom (or a reaction) of fear. Fear of taking on large sums of work and the idea that we'll never be able to have fun in the process or until we're finished. So we delay to aid us in temporary relief.<BR/><BR/>It's ALL about balance of work and play to find your peak peformance.<BR/><BR/>Been reading up on this a LOT lately, literally because I procrastinate... A lot. And need to get it handled.<BR/><BR/>I got a lot out of your post, great stuff!<BR/><BR/>Lee!Lee~noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-40963501278183559692008-08-18T10:00:00.000-07:002008-08-18T10:00:00.000-07:00I have to literally remind myself to have fun and "self amuse" because i find myself caught up introspective states all the time. <BR/><BR/>I find, intelligent people have less fun than less intelligent people, because they are always THINKING and trying to figure stuff out, and trying to find meaning and understanding. <BR/><BR/>I read somewhere that children laugh like 300 times in one day. Adults? 7. <BR/><BR/>I honestly dont laugh as much as alot of my natural buddies, and FORCING myself to laugh and joke around and have fun could definetly condition a more useful habit for me. <BR/><BR/>There is also the sublety between FUN and FEELING GOOD. <BR/><BR/>You can feel good doing work, or working out, or reading a book, but its not exactly "fun" in the carefree childlike sense where you are playing in the schoolyard and laughing and joking with your friends.<BR/><BR/>Great article man, probably one of the best ones you've written. <BR/><BR/><BR/>Cheers,<BR/>VishAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-27133816114690092262008-08-14T21:52:00.000-07:002008-08-14T21:52:00.000-07:00damn man that is so true, this article really makes me consider how i have to live my life. im going to put these in practiceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-33296688400165594122008-08-14T09:13:00.000-07:002008-08-14T09:13:00.000-07:00funny cuz im going through this right now... i cant sit through a movie anymore without getting anxious and going to the computer to get some writing done...<BR/><BR/>although, at this point, i kind of feel like i´ve had my share of fun and now work is fun... or is it? Have i just lost my ability to get lost in the moment.<BR/><BR/>right now im traveling in medellin colombia and im still hitting the computer labs to post on my site... or taking notes of stories to post... or photos that would be good for the site..<BR/><BR/>i kind of feel im missing a bit of the experience..Bobby Riohttp://www.tsbmag.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-2212624208740242512008-08-13T16:37:00.000-07:002008-08-13T16:37:00.000-07:00One that reckons accounts all the day passes not a happy moment. One that gladdens his heart all the day provides not for his house. The bowman hits the mark, as the steersman reaches land, by diversity of aim. He that obeys his heart shall command.<BR/><BR/>Egyptian sage Ptahhotep wrote this in 2400 B.C.<BR/><BR/>;)<BR/><BR/>Nice article. I'm considering my top job, and perhaps that's not the best solution after all. Took me 4 years at the Univ and 5 year in Grad School and 8 years of work experience to catch it.Dr Hexhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05034560765192987948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-48144108120064972402008-08-12T13:07:00.000-07:002008-08-12T13:07:00.000-07:00Fake it till you make it!<BR/><BR/>Really, this article just opened my eyes. I've really never had a lot of fun since I was a small kid, ten years or so. I do have some fun, but it's not very often, and I need to "warm up" first (get into state as many says, I really don't like thinking of it that way because then it is almost like desperately trying to find a key into the holy room, through a door which is already open).<BR/><BR/>So I think I'll just stick to the old fashion way, fake it till you make it! Maybe I'll enjoy silly girl "fake emotions" humour someday...<BR/><BR/>Childish power!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-65137985414672839962008-08-12T00:55:00.000-07:002008-08-12T00:55:00.000-07:00Hey nice article. However why not just choose a work that's fun ?<BR/><BR/>I'm not a fan of this "scizophrenia" that makes us have two different personnalities : one at work and one outside work.<BR/>We're just one person, so making this kind of separation is just not natural to me. It's not "flowing" in my opinion.<BR/><BR/>Most people use what professor Dan Ariely calls "market norms" when they're at work and "social norms" when they're with friends, and they're unable to mix the two behaviours.<BR/>For instance if you make a thanksgiving dinner to your family, and at the end of it, you ask for being paid, that's mixing the two kind of norms...And people would react negatively to that. Also, if you help a customer for free, your boss isn't going to be happy with that, so that's another way of mixing the two norms.<BR/><BR/>My answer is however, mixing the two : find a work that's fun, motivating, challenging, and start putting more and more fun in it.<BR/>Find some relations that are fun, motivating, challenging, and keep on with the fun after work.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-86667931469895860362008-08-10T19:39:00.000-07:002008-08-10T19:39:00.000-07:00My dad does this.<BR/>Thank you for this article I learned-Balance, Have more fun time!, laugh more muahah, and seriously live your own style of life aka integrity.<BR/>peace Tyler, i give u much loveJasonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-37009280795256777042008-08-10T08:24:00.000-07:002008-08-10T08:24:00.000-07:00hey man, i don't really post much on here, and neither on rsdnation. But I just wanna say I love this blog. I'm going through a bit of a difficult time right now, everything seems to be chaotic, and my life is in a bit of a mess.<BR/><BR/>But whenever I read your blog it's gives me this calm energy, I get a bit of perspective on things, and seems to hit the 'reset' button in my mind.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for doing this, really appreciate the effort.FindingLovehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08488040806589441791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-73166755122970646342008-08-09T18:22:00.000-07:002008-08-09T18:22:00.000-07:00what cartoon character thing?<BR/><BR/>love your take on work and playWillhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02847584309708429566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-56518564614595144972008-08-09T00:58:00.000-07:002008-08-09T00:58:00.000-07:00you articulate all the thoughts in my head that sometimes I cant quite tie together on my own. awesome article<BR/><BR/>work hard. play harder.<BR/><BR/>many thanks<BR/>AdamAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-16688649584804566672008-08-08T19:08:00.000-07:002008-08-08T19:08:00.000-07:00What you might want to to is go past analysis. <BR/><BR/>Come up with solutions. <BR/><BR/>Like a "How to have fun" Product, with only examples. No "Concepts" and analysis. Just examples.<BR/><BR/>As the Talking Heads David Byrne Said, "Stop Making Sense"<BR/><BR/>Go to youtube and watch their tune,<BR/>"Once in a lifetime" that tune, relates strongly to this, plus, it's fun.MDnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-78417666986775914852008-08-08T12:38:00.000-07:002008-08-08T12:38:00.000-07:00Bang on, Tyler.<BR/><BR/>I'm curious, how long did this take you to write?Abowernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-56781822117878322272008-08-08T06:14:00.000-07:002008-08-08T06:14:00.000-07:00Wowzers! Dude, this is what's happening to me. I'm in a transitional period where I'm super foucused on my work and real child-like fun seems taboo. I have to regress and pick up my "inner" child where I left him.Charleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02387031215317827106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-79341441901408769542008-08-08T05:57:00.000-07:002008-08-08T05:57:00.000-07:00Tyler,<BR/>I really think you are becoming an inspiration for many people, and you offer a lot of value. thanks for that and keep up the great work with RSD, you guys are truly great.Stefannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-14485022533827142702008-08-06T23:30:00.000-07:002008-08-06T23:30:00.000-07:00Hey tyler, what about the idea of approaching work as play?<BR/><BR/>Having fun because you decide what fun is.<BR/><BR/>Curios as to your thoughts on this approach.Halffullhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07306528558984229222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-53212419346806842932008-08-06T02:22:00.000-07:002008-08-06T02:22:00.000-07:00Very nice article. It's scary tho, I'm following RSD for some while now and this is the first time I've read your BLOG. But this article is exactly what I've talked about for hours with a friend of mine yesterday.<BR/><BR/>We both come to the conclusion, that most ppl needs some sort of balance in life to become happy in life.<BR/><BR/>Props for you Tyler!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-4614256072203957122008-08-05T08:26:00.000-07:002008-08-05T08:26:00.000-07:00great stuff.<BR/><BR/>coke bottle in the picture of you at the cape of good hope.<BR/><BR/>Interesting read. Time for everything.<BR/><BR/>- Red LeaderAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-6161929311335566562008-08-04T16:51:00.000-07:002008-08-04T16:51:00.000-07:00Man I've been struggling with this concept for over a year now. I've posted everywhere and asked everyone about it looking for answers. You answered it in the simplest terms. Great work and thank you so much tyler!kylenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-32496101159142202862008-08-04T12:44:00.000-07:002008-08-04T12:44:00.000-07:00Your articles make me think critically. they are enjoyable and you inspire me to improve myself. i recently watched your segment in dd's Approaching Women and your vocal projection, public speaking ability and confidence is even better than in Transformations.<BR/><BR/>Keep up the blog. I love it.TellMeMorehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01167434242470412804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-45980056892742236502008-08-04T12:05:00.000-07:002008-08-04T12:05:00.000-07:00good article!<BR/>but i disagree in one aspect with you. <BR/>sometimes it isn't your 'mind focuses on work' that is prohibiting your ability to have fun. <BR/>sometimes it's your character as well. i'm having some anxiety-problems lately, but they aren't caused by having too much stress. some people around me became ill and died. that frightens me like hell. you wonder: will i be next?<BR/><BR/>questions like 'what will i do with my life', 'am i doing well?' turn up and take away a lot of fun. even though i see my friends a lot, am quite succesful professionaly and go out regularly. <BR/><BR/>how would you deal with fun-killing fear?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com