tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post7577882551030310745..comments2024-01-06T04:19:07.616-08:00Comments on Real Social Dynamics Blog: More on "The New RSD"Tyler-Real Social Dynamicshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06957018105278795280noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-77310229751377992962007-06-22T21:00:00.000-07:002007-06-22T21:00:00.000-07:00i dig this and the prequal to it.I was just re-rea...i dig this and the prequal to it.<BR/><BR/>I was just re-reading this, and it would be awesome to hear some methods, or way you find to install this way of thinking/belief?<BR/><BR/>Also, get to come online more! I dig his style, and would love to hear his mindset!<BR/><BR/>Great article, much appreciated!<BR/><BR/>MachismoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-81279593753033190852007-03-05T23:17:00.000-08:002007-03-05T23:17:00.000-08:00amazing stuffamazing stuffAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-89668829005841013312007-03-04T12:15:00.000-08:002007-03-04T12:15:00.000-08:00Hey Tyler, I am happy to see you having success wi...Hey Tyler, I am happy to see you having success with your life. <BR/><BR/>And I was thinking about the "new paradigm" shift you were talking about in The New RSD and also I think many other PUAs has taken to this direction, I think of my style as in the cross road between having canned, and just beeing "my self" (and in state, spontaneous and just shooting positive energy. But I feel like some of the DHV stories I have, really get the DHV spikes for attractions coming, better than the style mentioned first.<BR/><BR/>Anyways.. Somehow.. I got to admit I'd liked you better as the superanalytical social robot on your earlier days. But maybe thats me?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-84047753763091984712007-02-09T13:52:00.000-08:002007-02-09T13:52:00.000-08:00I've had this exact same experience...I've repeate...I've had this exact same experience...I've repeatedly been in cycles where I think I've figured it all out, and then I try to do it "as a technique"--ie, to get a _reaction_--and it doesn't work anymore.<BR/><BR/>Who you are, not what you do. It really has to come from within. You have to REALLY not care--PRETENDING doesn't work. Maybe some can--from what I've read, sociopaths tend to be superhumanly charming, and lie about everything as a matter of routine--but for me, and I'm guessing for most other people--trying to be successful at faking is so hard that it's practically impossible--so hard that it's not worth the effort to try, because there's a much easier way.<BR/><BR/>-LeeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-59489424371528138462007-02-05T16:06:00.000-08:002007-02-05T16:06:00.000-08:00Nice. I've recently experienced a similar thing, a...Nice. I've recently experienced a similar thing, and it was a really awesome epiphanie for me. It's weird. I spent most of my teen years totally unconfident, and up until fairly recently (now in my early 20s) I'd been paying a lot of attention to small details and trying to really get everything down. I'd still be busting out lines and busting on women in somewhat of a contrived way and getting decent results.<br /><br />On one hand I felt like I'd come really far since my early days, on the other it felt kind of like I still had a long way to go. "I just must be missing out on something small" etc. At this point I made ridiculous amounts of effort on my image, working out a lot, really trying to fill that void. My success decreased.<br /><br />I decided to take a few steps back and just chill. Forget about PU and just take it easy. I start just talking to people normally, without any pre-conceived ideas. I'm just being me; albeit me after 2-3 years of constant awareness of every sentence to leave my lips and every arm movement and every interaction. And what happens? A lot.<br /><br />Suddenly I make a lot of new friends. I'd spent several months feeling fairly isolated, feeling pretty down that my friends had all gone in different directions. Within a month of just acting normal, I've suddenly got a whole new social circle, and my former friends are calling me all the time and we're hanging several times a week. Something we haven't done since those summers 5 years ago.<br /><br />My success with women, which was already pretty consistent, improves.<br /><br />It's weird. If you could see a chart of my congruence, it would look like a spike: /\<br /><br />The start being total incongruence with the new material, the peak being congruence with the material and my best success with women, and the dip being increasing incongruence. The only difference is the incongruence after the peak is the fact that I'm putting on a show when those traits had been internalized to the point of genuinely being parts of my true personality. No need for faking it when I'd already made it... to a degree. Although I still have a long way to go.<br /><br />It's further evidence that a lot of subcommunication goes on at a level so subtle it's nigh on impossible to discuss, let alone consciously control. You can have everything DOWN... body language, eye contact, voice, yet you may still come across as shy or lacking confidence if you're not truly in state. Could it be the length of the gaps between words you say? Microscopic variations in the speed at which you sip your Coke? Damned if I know.<br /><br />Nice post anyway, man.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-12884283590667143622007-01-31T09:25:00.000-08:002007-01-31T09:25:00.000-08:00The moment you identify with a behaviour or with a...The moment you identify with a behaviour or with a response, you negate the effectiveness of it, I believe that as soon as you Identify with something it become EGO.<br /><br />and as soon as the behavior/response/situation you identified with becomes in your perception under threat your game breaks down.<br /><br />but why does it break down? From what I am piecing together so far about what Tyler is talking about is that as soon as something becomes part of EGO it becomes highly suggestable to threat. Because EGO is in constant conflict with all kinds of external forces.<br /><br />So in absence of EGO what is left? I feel it's a form of PURITY, it is emotional state UNPOLLUTED.<br /><br />Ask yourself this, What stifles communication?<br /><br /><br /><br />INSECURITY, what is Insecurity?, I believe that insecurity is like a symptom of ego. Ego like Tyler said a rational construct or psychological complex that is designed to give a false sense of individuality, the false sense of individuality is a feeling of SEPERATION and when you are seperated you kind of become your EGO in a sense that other egos threaten you and your ego feels the need to protect itself from being damaged because ego is fragile.<br /><br />So then in absence of ego, which I guess can be said essentially as ego trancsendence we feel in synergy with are enviornment and all people in it, we dont feel the need to IMPRESS, we dont feel the need to be aloof, we dont feel the need to control the frame. WE CAN BE AS WE ARE, without FACADE. WHY? because those very FEELINGS of control, inadaquacy, uncoolness, unattractiveness stem from insecurity and since...<br /><br />Insecurity is a symptom of EGO, that means that those insecurities were in fact born EGO. I don't think ego in itself is a NEGATIVE thing, its just a psychological complex we created in order to handle the trauma of being wounded. However there is one point that I didnt meet eye to eye on with Tyler, its not a very essential point but it puts thing for me into a bigger perspective.<br /><br />I think that the wounding starts at the seperation from the womb, from the mother and continues on into adolesence when we REALLY begin to feel our seperation, when we are put through all sorts of social institutions like Schooling and other conditioning that comes from parents and peers and innummerable amounts of people you come in contact with.<br /><br />So transcendence of ego is learning to work in SYNERGY, its learning to "RE-REMEMBER" your uniqueness because as it was said..<br /><br />Your value starts with YOU, the humanbeing, the gigantic file cabinet of EXPERIANCES<br /><br />;-)<br /><br />hope that was insightful.<br /><br />- SANIKAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-60107688808076866032007-01-29T20:37:00.000-08:002007-01-29T20:37:00.000-08:00Hey TD,
I've recently come to the realisation tha...Hey TD,<br /><br />I've recently come to the realisation that for my whol life I considered my value, deservingness and potential to be less than the average person. <br /><br />My problem is habving these blindspots and not seeing these limiting beliefs till I've evolved past them. <br /><br />Do you have any ideas, tools or maps that can help me evolve?<br /><br />I've been looking into Spiral Dynamics (Clarge Graves) to help me with this. Have you read anything about that?CBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10711085907111367483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-59022924134039064902007-01-29T14:34:00.000-08:002007-01-29T14:34:00.000-08:00Hey Tyler,
I'm around 300 pgs into THE GAME and w...Hey Tyler,<br /><br />I'm around 300 pgs into THE GAME and what you write now, here in the blog is pretty deep and shows your growth. It's like coming to the part of the story when Style mentions when you'd arrived back at the project you made eye contact with him- brief as it was and continued to speak from a place of humility. My point is that it was coming from your real core and authentic human emotion to re-connect with a person you'd emulated so far as to practically count the # of breaths he took per minute. The portrayel of your character is further riveting to me when citing the time in the Hard Rock cafe L.V. and you were quoted by Style as having AMOG'ed Mystery in some very clever ways. Your motivation these days noting from this bog seems to have shifted somewhat in that you've matured subjectively ownin your own masculinity and therein your personal power and security has solidified. Your "base" is no longer funtioning from deficit because you feel safe in your own skin now; your locus of control is centered. Your natural self can flourish because you've experienced acceptance of your deepest wounds and have shown authorship, kinship, and compassion to your entire person. Now you are validated and can power through life as a leader of man because you are a leader of yourself. You look in the mirror and you are proud because you can smile from your heart now; the real you-not a million different faces and voices. You are a person of consequence and have laid stake to the fact you are real and are evolving.<br /><br />I see a lot of my self in you Yyler so if it sounds like I'm projecting, perhaps I am just a little. <br /><br />I recently moved and came across a box of journals- there must have been about 15 in all. Every page filled front and back. My wife and I parused through them and smiled and laughed after I let a big sighh and said "ah, so much processed this last decade and what came of it most.. of all the intrapersonal exploration was the conclusion that I matter. I Sifu, am a man self possessed now- the boy in me has died"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-80321117738179790862007-01-29T03:01:00.000-08:002007-01-29T03:01:00.000-08:00Rock solid, dude. Keep moving.
GallantryRock solid, dude. Keep moving.<br /><br />GallantryAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37394673.post-22782044461032112922007-01-28T22:41:00.000-08:002007-01-28T22:41:00.000-08:00Part of what makes this and other posts brilliant ...Part of what makes this and other posts brilliant is that you are willing to detach yourself from situations and pick out vital pieces of information from them-- even from something Neil said. No one does that! Awesome. This is not lost on me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com