"Transformations" For Advanced Players -- Making The Come-Back

OMG what a day...

I'm packing up my apartment to leave Honolulu for around six months to a year.

I've got the NYC Blueprint Superconference coming up this weekend, and I've got to have the final preparations ready for the massive "Transformations" release that's coming out August 1 2007, 12PM EST.

(Have you gotten on the VIP Interest List yet?? It's at www.becometransformed.com)

Add to that I try to have the blog updates out on-time every Monday, so let's hammer this out FAST.

Today I want to talk about some "advanced-level" concepts...... which of course means that 90% of you will have absolutely no idea WTF I'm talking about.

That's OK.

You can "imagine" what it's like, and then come back in a year or two and re-read this article.

So......

When you're talking about "Transformations" you're talking about taking on a new lifestyle.

This lifestyle is a quantum-leap ahead of the way that you were living before, and it's a lifestyle that basically has a pattern.

You start out clueless, or maybe as a guy who wants to hit that higher level of success you know you're capable of.

At first you read up on the basics and you make a habit of going out and striking up conversations with women.

LOTS of women.... Like MASSIVE amounts of approaches, for months on end.

You hit up high-end venues that would usually intimidate you, experiment with all sorts of new behaviours (like humour, being more assertive, making connections with people, "being the party" and manning-up), and basically move towards "actualizing" the person that you know you're more than able to "become".

What this accomplishes is that it gets you about 10-20 years worth of "reference experiences" and "social skills" in about 1-3 years.

That's a LOT of reference experiences, and as a result you turn into basically what you'd call a MONSTER in a nightclub and in *life*.

It basically transforms you into (as funny as it sounds) a "social genius".

When I say a "social genius" what I mean is that if you're hanging out with a group of girls and you have a friend with you, your friend will probably be mentally-stunned and have a hard time offering value to the vibe because everything you say is so "on-point" that he socially can't "keep up".

(If you're a good dude you're conscious to "bring people up to your level" and back off a bit as opposed to "eclipsing" them and keeping them down).

Anyway, eventually you walk a typical path where you date a range of girls from not-so-wonderful to superficial-and-super-hot.

This is a *huge* ego-boost because you're now being given "access" to a world that you never thought that you could be a part of, and a world that most people will never realize exists.

What I'm talking about is very similar to the "Abundance VS Scarcity" reality that comes with building wealth -- where if you elevate yourself into a position of abundance you suddenly look at the world operating through scarcity and wonder how you ever could have walked in the same shoes.

Over time you become acclimatized to the whole lifestyle...

You've got the girls, probably a wonderful relationship, and you feel like you've basically become "The Man".

Now here's where things oftentimes start to get all screwed up...

Eventually you no longer feel a need to go out and "Pick Up Chicks" anymore.

This happens for a NUMBER of reasons...

1- You've become a lot more "internally validated" and so the thrill of chatting up some random girl just doesn't exist for you anymore.

You probably wonder how you ever spent so many hours just chatting up girls and it all seems to empty and meaningless at this point.

In fact, it's probably very difficult to go from 10PM to 2AM "chatting up girls" because it's like "Damn, elementary school used to be from 9AM to 3PM and that was like only 5 hours with all the lunch breaks and recesses.... Now I'm chatting up girls for FOUR hours?? That's a loooooong time!!"

2- You've probably started dating some very "quality" women, and you now have a better idea of what a quality girl is all about. Chatting up these semi-alcoholic, stimulation-junkie girls that tend to frequent nightclubs just feels like going back to Kindergarden.

Not only that, but the rudeness that's often stereotypical in nightclubs really messes with your "I want to view people in a positive light" type vibe. You see the way people treat eachother in these venues, and the superficiality of it all, and it just feels like a place that you *shouldn't* be.

3- You most likely have also dated some extremely hot women in your time, and once you actually start to date a lot of women and make the distinctions of what's actually hot and what's just make-up and smoke-and-mirrors, you realize that most of the girls you find are not nearly as physically attractive as they look on the surface.

Coming out of a relationship you probably also have a mindset where you want to "upgrade" as opposed to "downgrade", and all the girls that you USED to think were cool to talk to suddenly become a lot less enticing.

This gets even more ridiculous when you've got some girl you KNOW is not "all that" who tries to cut you down, and you're thinking "Uhhhh, my last three ex-girlfriends are a HUNDRED times hotter than you. Why in the world would you be acting like this??"

Anyway, all this results in your not really wanting to go out and meet people anymore because you now feel "comfortable in your own skin" and it just doesn't feel like it's a very worthwhile use of your time.

Here's the issue though...

Over the years you've taken on the new "identity" as being the guy who is now "good with girls".

You look at other people who live in a female-empoverished reality and you think "Wow these guys are so ridiculous... They really just need to man up."

Except guess what??

*YOU* are no longer competent to meet new women outside of your social-circle anymore.

You've become comfortable with yourself, more confident as a man, and generally just a better person......... but you're not ACTUALLY CAPABLE of pointing out, approaching, attracting, and dating a new girl at the snap of a finger anymore.

This creates a very nasty "incongruence".

You may even become a "hater" and talk trash on all the people who still like to "Run around like chickens with their heads cut off.... Trying to be mack-daddies and pick up all these girls".

Most likely you even *resent* the people who actually make an effort to improve themselves, because you see in them what Carl Jung would call your "Shadow Self" -- that previously "try-hard" dorky dude that you used to be a few years ago and that you've worked so hard to move past.

See, the whole idea of a legitimate "Transformation" is that you *become* the guy who now has mastery with women and mastery over the self.

That means that a few things...:

-You don't have to "get into state" at the start of the night.

-You don't have to consciously "do anything" to attract women other than just approach and be chatty.

-You don't have to "leave on a high-note" or worry that she won't see you at your "best" because you don't have to think about this stuff anymore.

-You don't get nervous to call day2s or bring a girl home.

You've literaly just *become* the guy that you want to be.

The thing is though.......... this also leads to some nasty "ego-constructs" that might hold you back in ways that you don't realize.

Back when you'd see a cute girl walking down the street, you'd *want* to approach her because your "ego" or "sense of self" would be increased NO MATTER WHAT THE REACTION.

I mean, even if the girl "rejected" you, you'd still have the identity of "A guy who at least had the guts to try..."

Nowadays though your sense-of-self is so inflated that ANYTHING OTHER THAN A PERFECT APPROACH IS A LET-DOWN.

This leads to a thin, almost indetectable "shelack of neediness"..... Where you're not "needy" for the actual girl, but you're "needy" for her confirmation that you're a still a "sex worthy guy".

You haven't been meeting new people (aka -- "strangers") for a long time, so anything other than a phenomenal reaction is basically just popping a hole in the "unchallenged reality" bubble that you've been comfortable living for the last few years.

Even tougher is that the "ego" has constructs of "What type of behaviour is acceptable and what type of behaviour is not".

This leads to a HUGE decrease in "teachability" -- in the sense that you're no longer capable of remaining a "student of the game".

As a teacher, I can't tell you how challenging it is for me to teach you if you're already "really good" with women.

That's not because I don't have a million little micro-distinctions to impart that could easily bring you up to the next level.

Nope...

Rather, it's because if you have a lot of skill with women already, your ego-construct is actually going to mess with you and make you feel an emotional-reaction when you're being given instruction as opposed to "calling the shots" like you're usually accustomed to.

(I have a million ways of dealing with this that I've learned over the years, btw...)

Honestly I can say that EVEN FOR ME, as a guy who can fully "recognize" the teachability issues that come with an inflated ego...... whenever I'm being "schooled" I can *still* feel this weird sensation in my body that's saying "You shouldn't be taking orders and criticism like this..."

I've learned to "observe" it, stay in-the-moment, and not identify myself with the emotion -- but that's still taken me a few years of work -- which if you're the average typically-cool dude you're probably NOT interested in investing yourself in.

Anyway, all of these issues make it REALLY FRIGGIN' HARD to re-assume a "student of the game" mentality and make that big "Come-Back" that you know you should be easily capable of.

If you're like most guys, you'll probably rest on your laurels and live through your stories about what a big pimp-boss-playa you used to be for the rest of your years.

It doesn't have to be that way, however...

If you want to make a glorious come-back, there is a still a "way" that it can be done...

In fact I have a few recommendations I want to leave you with, which I've personally found absolutely indispensable for emerging from the dust and reclaiming the throne...... :)

Here they are.......

1- First up is IMO the most absolutely crucial concept in the entire "Success With Women" lexicon.

That's the understanding that states, "YOU MUST DRAW STATE FROM YOURSELF AND NOT FROM YOUR ENVIRONMENT".

Back in the day you used to go out and get a thrill from talking to girls who you previously thought were "out of your league".

Well, those days are over. It ain't gonna happen for you like that anymore.

From here on out, you will have to take on the new habit of drawing state from within and not from your environment, otherwise you will feel and appear as like a "wilted-flower".

If you've ever studied the whole idea of "sexual yoga" and how to please a woman, you know that in a long-term relationship you can't keep getting the same "feelings" from it that you got when you first hooked up.... UNLESS you make the shift to viewing sex as an opportunity to just "go nuts" and "express" that crazy, emotional side of your personality.

On a "come back", going out has to become an opportunity to just blow off steam and be playful and go nuts. It's got to be therapeutic in that sense.

If you take this approach, you'll find that you'll stop whining that you don't care about women's validation anymore and you'll start viewing a night out as a way of recharging your batteries.

Go out for the joy of OFFERING VALUE rather than GETTING VALIDATED.

This will lead to hands-down the biggest increase in your results that you ever imagined. In fact, the flood of results will be so staggering that you will exceed any of your previous "records" from back in the day.

Make it your mission to assume this new mindset -- DRAWING STATE FROM YOURSELF AND NOT FROM YOUR ENVIRONMENT.

2- The next most important thing is..... "Admitting You Suck"

Face it... If you haven't been out meeting women for a while, the fact of the matter is that you probably suck.

So what??

Laugh about it. Tell people "Yeah I suck.... LOL"

Who cares?? If you're really "internally validated" now, why would you care if you've gotten a little rusty??

You'll find that when you stop trying to preserve your "duan juan" self image, you'll be empowered to 1) Not base your identity on your skills with women, and 2) Do all the core, fundamental things that most "advanced players" would have too much ego to do.

When I was out of the game for a year and a half to write The Blueprint, I went back into it saying "I'm not going to EVER talk about what a pimp I used to be... And I'm going to fully admit that I suck."

Within 30-90 days I found that I was not only back in great form, but I'd taken on many of the advantages of being a "seasoned veteran".

I felt a lot like I was in the movie "Rocky Balboa". I wasn't as fast on the responses or as nimble as I used to be (who cares??), but I could throw a punch that would knock you the heck out in a single blow.

IOW, while I still get blown out on the "Open" more often than I used to, I now get a lot of really kick-ass responses from women that I *never* used to get back in the day.

For example, I find more often that I'll have women continually re-opening me throughout the night (or opening me in the first place), talking non-stop to try and impress me, or even saying surprising things like "I'm so horny... I need you to take me home and f**k me right now..."

(This last once I've had more than once, which has really jolted me every time because it's so forward and over the top... Yet I've heard of many "naturals" getting these types of responses for years now and it intuitively makes sense).

I *never* used to get stuff like that back in the day. I had good results but I virtually *always* had to be the guy doing most of the work.

Obviously I don't get these results all the time, and I don't go out "expecting" it to happen, but it's been something that's been consistently occuring more and more since I've been back out there.

3- Cultivate a knowledge of your "Ego-structure" and become "Teachable" like you used to be back in the day.

This means that if you have to "stoop" to asking your friends who are still out there and kicking ass for some help, go out there and do it.

The principle I'm talking about here goes for whether you're already solid and want to improve, or if you've been out of it for a while and you want to get back in the game.

You'll find that when you've become a big P.I.M.P. that you have a defense-mechanism that makes you reject and block-out all people who try to "give you orders"

This mechanism is, of course, something you've evolved as a way of maintaining your social position.

Well you know what?? If it's not serving you, scrap it.

Man, life is SO FRUSTRATINGLY SHORT that there's simply NO EXCUSE to waste years of your life trying to preserve your identity and live in an unchallenged reality.

Just make it your mission to become teachable again, take advantage of all the great advice that's out there, and get back on the horse.

You'll find that when you do, the results that start pouring in will be so worth the stretch that you'll be flabbergasted that you never got back at it sooner.

Anyway, it's 8PM now and I've got to finish packing for my 6AM flight to Los Angeles en route to NYC.

I hope you guys have a great week, and remember to stay on the look out for "Transformations" which is coming out August 1 2007 @ 12PM EST.

You will be absolutely blown away with the increase in lifestyle that this program will produce for you...

At least, if you stick the script and actually IMPLEMENT what's being taught.


Tyler

PS:

If you're a guy who has been "in the game" for a long time, Jeffy has included a very detailed 2 hour section in "Transformations" that is IMO hands-down the most honest, intense, epiphany-creating breakdown of the "Advanced-Level" ups-and-downs that I have ever personally witnessed.

This is the type of hardcore subtle insight that will give you a higher level of "self-knowledge" and put you on a corrected-course to hitting that "elite level" you hear everyone talking about as being the ideal in this community.

Ultimately these types of "plateau-breaking" ideas could really only be offered to you by a guy coming from Jeffy's position -- as he's been living this lifestyle so long that he's one of the few people on this planet actually qualified to speak his mind to this extent.

Everything in "Transformations" is taught to you along the lines of THE JOURNEY -- going from "Newbie" to "Intermediate" to "Fully Advanced And Self-Actualized" player who lives a lifestyle that frankly, most guys will never realize exists.

What I'm talking about is hitting that "sweet spot" where these skills have become fully internalized and an inseparable feature of WHO-YOU-ARE.

There's also the most recent and up-to-date kick-ass techniques (and yes, Tim breaks down the infamous "CLAW"), step-by-step methodologies, and ultimately a crack team of seasoned veterans offering you their absolute top-notch insights on how to make explosive progress in this game.

Get on the 100% No Obligation "VIP Interest List" at www.becometransformed.com -- and later in the week you'll be linked to the detailed contents of what to expect from the program, as well as the most hilarious before-and-after pics you've ever seen (all of us as chodes, and then the pics of who we've become today).

As funny as it sounds (and without exaggerating), just seeing how ridiculous these are you'll probably find you undergo a bit of a bit of a shift in reality -- in terms of seeing visual proof that this stuff is absolutely 100% possible.

I was personally in stitches for like a half an hour. No kidding.