The Disconnect Between Being You And Getting GIrls

Have a look at this picture.......


Really examine it........

Get into it.........

Allow yourself to "zone out".......

Feel free to do so in whatever way you're inclined.........

Now maybe this particular girl is your taste, and maybe she's not (although it often boggles me how newbies will often comment they "wouldn't date" various models as they aren't their "type").

Point being -- and this is the subject of our article today -- is that there may be a DISCONNECT in your mind about your ability to attract a woman like this.

I mean, in a nightclub she's radiant.

A central fixture of the environment.

You can FEEL her options -- not only in her choice of men, but in her choice of where she offers her attention and time.

Meanwhile you and your friends are sort of hanging out, like............

And really, there's nothing wrong with that.

You're a guy. It comes down more to your attitude.

But sometimes, there might be a little bit of social conditioning that creeps into your mind.....

Like "Maybe I really don't match up with these girls.... Maybe looks really DO matter and these master POoOoOO-AH guys just have some special angle they're not telling us about....."

I go through it myself.

My first three years of RSD I was on the road constantly and never watched a minute of television. I didn't even know who my Prime Minister was anymore, let alone what were the latest "beauty standards" of the media.

Eventually though, I went back to school to wrap up my degree and my house mates had a television. I started watching it on occassion, and one day found myself ACTUALLY THINKING that all my success was some sort of dream.

I started doubting what I'd actually accomplished.....

Chode culture was saturating back into my veins......

Albeit some pretty FUNNY and INTERESTING chode culture, but chode culture nonetheless.....

Anyway, it's funny how your mind will play these tricks on you.

Like, you see guys on TV and it just MAKES SENSE that they'd get a higher quality of girl that what you're capable of.

They seem to MATCH.

And you look at yourself and you think, "Am I really cut out to date a girl like that? Would we realistically make sense together?"

There's a sort of GAP or DISCONNECT that your mind can't bring into alignment.

To your mind it just DOESN'T MAKE SENSE.

The thing is -- the way you THINK the whole "secret society" of dating hot girls works probably isn't how it looks in reality.

There are a lot of truths that you're going to learn when you date these girls.

You're going to learn that they're often insecure.....

That they often compare themselves to other girls.....

They they often can't manage their emotions......

That they often can't manage their lives......

You might even find that they have all sorts of random quirky tendencies, like that they're so needy for sex it becomes UNATTRACTIVE -- or other weird stuff like that they worship some kind of new-age voodoo mythology.

In the clubs they're goddesses, sure -- but once you date them, you realize that they're still HUMAN BEINGS.

....and you learn to forgive them for it and love them anyway.

Isn't it sweet? Awwwwwwwww.... :)

Of course, it's a huge surprise when you find out that this is how things go actually down -- because you always thought that once you could attract these girls that your ENTIRE LIFE would suddenly be magically sorted out.

The thing is though -- and this is definitely something to chew on -- virtually ALL GIRLS have the ability to get themselves a hot guy on command (even the least attractive girl you've ever seen).

Good looking, "alpha male", hot guys go home with the most hogger girls ALL THE TIME.

They look at their hand, they look at the girl, they look back at their hand -- they sort of shrug, smirk, and take the girl home.

Are these girls any happier for it? Has it enriched their lives in any way? Sort of. Kind of. It depends on how you look at it.

That's the irony.

Sex isn't going to do any more for your life than having access to non-stop gourmet food or a giant screen plasma TV. It's awesome at first, but eventually things come into equilibrium and you either take it for granted or you don't.

If you're a guy who has the tendency to APPRECIATE and LOVE all things he has in his life, you'll probably appreciate and love your future girlfriend. But if you don't appreciate and love what you have NOW, you probably won't appreciate the girlfriend that you eventually get.

You'll grow bored.... Believe it or not.

Point being, there really IS NO GAP between yourself and being worthy of these girls.

At least, no gap that you're not able to eventually close.

It comes down to becoming a better person.......

Building sharper social skills.....

BEING THE MAN......

This stuff is all learnable.

If you want it for the right reasons, you'll get it.

All that superficial conditioning you get from the idiot-box -- it's NOT TRUE.

You've got to remember that.

There is no gap. Or there is no spoon. Whatever.

Once you get to know a girl, and once she gets to know YOU, the dynamics of attraction get totally scrambled.

Perceived value goes up or down. The lines get fuzzy.

The question is whether or not you CARRY YOURSELF in a way that's attractive and break through that INVISIBLE WALL.

And just as importantly, can your brain DISASSOCIATE from the brutal disconnect between your own value and hers for long enough that the true dynamic to become apparent.

It's not a technique we're talking about. It's a way that you live your life.

Knowing who you are.....

Knowing what you value......

Knowing what your personal boundaries are......

Knowing how you expect people to act around you, and offering that same value in return.

All these things are the foundations of keeps your mind CENTERED and allows you to LIVE THE TYPE OF LIFE THAT YOU WANT TO LIVE.

Life is too short to do otherwise.

So keep plugging away at it, and eventually you'll see that the disconnect was only in your mind.... :)

If you're centered enough to actually appreciate it, the results will be worth the stretch.


Tyler